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College is hard. Relationships are hard. Long distance relationships are basically impossible. How many times have you heard this in your young adult life? Well, I’m telling you right now, forget everything you’ve heard. Clear away that cloud of negativity and doubtful thoughts in your head. Because guess what, college is exciting! Relationships are exciting! And, long distance relationships can be some of the most rewarding relationships of your life. In this how-to guide, I’m going to be breaking down exactly why college doesn’t have to hinder your love life.
How Will You Be With Your Partner?
A huge issue that scares people away from most long distance relationships in general, especially while in college, is the fact that they can’t spend one on one time, in person, with the one they love. Well guess what, this was one of the reasons why platforms such as Skype, FaceTime, Snapchat, and a whole bunch of other live social media software was created! Now, I know that live video chatting with your partner is definitely not the same as being in person with them, but it’s a start right? Most of the time, I’m not one to text my partner all day long. I love calling them up on Skype, and just talking about our days. Sometimes, you don’t even have to talk with your partner. Even being on FaceTime while you do your makeup in the morning before work or class, or while you’re making dinner, can be oddly comforting.
How Will You Make Time For Your Partner?
Time, is another huge issue that people have with long distance relationships. Your time is valuable, especially in college. You have studying, tests, homework, exams, finals, and most likely work. How are you going to squeeze in time for your partner at a time when you should be focusing on yourself? That’s honestly one of the most incredible things about long distance relationships. Whether you’re in college, or out of college, one of the main things that makes long distance relationships work, is making time for your partner. We’ve all heard the saying,” Your time is the most precious thing you can give to a person.” I completely stand by this quote. Time management is something you have to learn in college anyways if you want to get good grades, earn money, and have a social life. I feel like it’s super important to spend your time on each task in your day wisely. Instead of going to the party with your friends on Saturday, why not make time for your significant other, and just chill and stream Netflix together? Or, let’s say you have a huge exam coming up, and most of your day is filled with studying. Make an effort to at least call them before going to bed, and plan a virtual date night after the exam is over. If you can make time for each other, that shows that you both truly care about the relationship and for each other.
When To See Them?
Another tip I have for making long distance work in college, is to take advantage of your breaks! Whether it’s Spring break, Winter break, or a long weekend, always try to visit each other whenever you have time. I know it can be hard saving up money while in school, but if you have a physical end goal in sight, such as seeing the one you love, I promise it makes saving up for that plane ticket much easier. It’s so incredibly true that distance makes the heart grow fonder. While being in a long distance relationship, over time, you get used to seeing your partner on a screen. So, when you’re finally able to see them in person, it makes your time together so much more special and meaningful. If you don’t think you can fly to see each other, try out a cheaper option, such as taking a Greyhound, or taking a road trip! Also, remember to try to alternate who pays for the travel expenses. So, if they came to see you during Winter break, save up so you can go see them over Spring break. This will save both of you a lot of money, allowing you to see each other more. This also gives you both a change of atmosphere.
How Will You Trust Them?
Honestly, I can’t tell you how or when to trust your partner. A lot of people find it hard to trust the people that they’re in a relationship with while being with them 24/7, let alone in a long distance relationship. Trusting someone so far away from you can be tough. It will most likely be tough on both of you. Just make sure to always have an open line of communication with your partner. Feel free to message them throughout the day telling them what you’re up to, or Snapchat them activities you’re doing, and ask them how their day is going. Are you going to be a little suspicious every now and then? Sure. Most people would be. But, don’t be afraid to open up to your partner and make sure they know that you trust them, and then they’ll most likely give that trust back to you. Now, I’m not saying to go and give your trust to anyone you might be in a relationship with, but I personally feel that you know when it’s time to trust the other person. Trust me.
Remember, even though this is technically a how-to guide, doesn’t mean it’s foolproof. Love doesn’t have strict guidelines, or a set of rules you need to follow to make your relationship last forever. At the end of the day, you need to find the right person for you, and one that is worth being in a long distance relationship for. Trust me, being with the right person makes long distance so much easier, and so much more rewarding.